Knowing Your Self Worth.

If you’re anything like me, you’re a girl with a whole load of baggage. A whole load of past traumas and a whole load of life experiences already. From things that have personally happened to me, to things in the family etc. It took me a long time to truly know my worth however, I’m finally at a point in my life where I won’t settle for less than what I deserve.
Here’s my #5 Self worth tips that helped me to grow as a person and know my worth.

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#1: Surround yourself with people who UPLIFT you.

Through life I’ve known that there are certain friends I can call for certain things in life. There’s the friends I can call in an emergency when I need help, the friends I can call for a good time, the friends I can rely on to show up for me and support me in all aspects of life and so on. Your friends should be able to compliment you, uplift you, encourage you, support you and be there for you. I find a lot of the time I’m supporting friends with uplifting messages and encouraging them in whatever situation they are in and it’s important to me that my friends are the same in return; because even the strong friend needs someone to lean on. If people are bringing constant negativity into your life, it’s about time you let them go as they are ‘DOWNLIFTING‘ you (Yes, I just made that up and no it doesn’t make sense) and that’s something nobody needs.

#2: Become self-aware.

Self awareness, what is that you ask? lol. It’s conscious knowledge of ones own character, feelings, motives and desires. Some will say, ‘well of course everyone is self aware’, but it’s not true. It took me a lot of time to realise what I truly want for myself, and it’s not about just knowing but it’s also about taking the necessary steps to make it happen for yourself. You have to know your triggers, what motivates you, what makes you feel a certain type of way and use all of these things to your advantage in a way to enhance your quality of life. Truly connecting to your inner being and using this to improve your view of living is so important. 2020 was a year of struggle for many people, so I believe self awareness is something many can benefit from.

#3: Knowing when to MOVE ON.

Moving on requires a lot of personal growth to let go, perhaps forgive, to acknowledge when something isn’t good for you. As the year is coming to an end, I urge everybody to MOVE ON.
Move on from whatever doesn’t make you happy; If that’s a job, a relationship, friendship, commitment, anything… You must get rid of it. Earlier this year I made the difficult decision to leave my job. I didn’t have another job to fall back on and also had no other means of income at the time but it was something I had to do for my own mental wellbeing and personal growth. Sometimes you can become comfortable in a situation even if you’re not happy in it.. And in this case that was me. I knew if I didn’t leave the job I wouldn’t take the necessary steps to excel within a chosen career and that I would continue on this path of unhappiness. After my father’s passing my mental health wasn’t in the best state and the working hours i was contracted didn’t help with my lack of motivation, sleep deprivation and so on. This was such a necessary step towards recovering and my mental wellbeing getting back on track. Sometimes, you have to take that risk and know when it’s time to move on.

#4: Believe in Yourself, Wholeheartedly!

I am a strong believer of ‘The Law Of Attraction’, what you truly believe will truly happen. There’s been many times I’ve said things in gist and they’ve happened. Your words are powerful, your mind is powerful. YOU are powerful.
I spend a lot of time giving advice to people and telling them to believe in themselves and that they should have hope that their desires will happen, however I also need to tell myself that. It’s easy to say and then not do, however it’s a work in progress and it’s something that won’t happen overnight.
Build that self confidence in believing you can achieve anything, this will take away all forms of doubt. You’ll no longer doubt your ability to do anything, you’ll no longer allow others to doubt you and in that process you’ll be unstoppable on the journey towards your ultimate happiness.

#5: Always, ALWAYS Put Yourself First.

This is something I and many others struggle with. I am such a people pleaser I would do anything to make those around me and those that I love happy. However, in the process I am draining my own energy and it leaves me unavailable for my own self. It’s also given others the impression that I am invincible and can deal with majority by myself. Since putting myself first I’ve become less emotionally available to others, not in a negative way but in a beneficial way for myself. If I am not mentally prepared to take on your issues, I simply won’t and will say ‘Today’s not a good time, can we talk another day’ or ‘I’m really exhausted today, do you mind if I call you back?” – Something as simple as this allows others to know that you are a priority and in fact, you are your own priority and they should be theirs. By no means do I think you should allow the people you love and care about deal with problems on their own when they need support, but you should understand when something is mentally draining you and when you are able to truly help them based on how you are feeling yourself.

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“You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.”

Oprah Winfrey

With Love,

Nai xx